We need to understand, that we are not the thought, and we are not the feeling.
Thoughts colour feelings, and the feelings colour thoughts; and either one can be set-off by an event completely outside of our control. What an utter nonsense that is. It can rule our lives.
Everything turns around !! That includes thoughts and feelings.
Be the witness; the "fly on the wall" of your own life. Watch the pantomime unfold, but don't be a pointless part in it.
There's a choice. No, not for everyone, that's true; but try to reach a perspective. I'm personally guided, by balance, respect and love xxx I think !